Tag Archive: creating happiness

On my last post, I explained that we need to focus more about what we really want so we can work towards that goal… that place we wish to be physically and emotionally. For  16 years I have been running my business in the hopes of  offering help and support to those wanting to make a change from  what they have that is not working towards a life of happiness and fulfillment. And the one reoccurring theme I see in so many lives is that most people that are unhappy have no idea why. And they are clueless about what it is exactly that they want to change. Most of the time, they want to change others that they feel are the issue causing this feeling of discontentment. When asked, I get a 3  or 4 page email with the drama explaining the who, what, where, when etc… As I sift through the details trying to figure out what the bottom line is, I realize that my influence will be minimal unless I can get that client to forget all the details of the issue. I need the client to focus on what is in his or her power to bring the change through them . In other words, you can’t facilitate change in your life by changing others. Change must come from within. If you want change, then you must look within for the answers.


The first step to transforming your life is self discovery. Who are you as defined by yourself? That is much different than the outer you that is defined by friends, family, co-workers etc… The following article sums up the process of self-discovery perfectly.




Understanding Spiritual Clarity

I offer custom spell candles and crystal jewelry to offer customers a spiritual tool to help them create the change the desire they want in their life. When I decided to offer this option, I thought it would be rather straight forward. But after 5 years of offering this extra service, I have noticed that many of those people order something custom because they don’t know what it is that they really want.

Imagine going to restaurant and the waiter comes to your table and he asks what you would like for dinner. If you aren’t sure, you may ask for his suggestion or for more time to look at your menu. You make ask your companions what they are going to choose. This is good. You are exposing yourself to options or getting inspired by other people’s feedback. But in the end, you have to tell the waiter what you want. If the waiter guessed at what you want, you may end up with shellfish. That may be exactly what you wanted which is good. But what if you are very allergic to shellfish?

Many people visit my site looking for answers. They have an emptiness that they can’t put a finger on. I don’t think anyone could argue that if they knew what that empty spot was, they would figure out how to fill it up. So they search my site, not knowing what they want but hoping something will be the answer. They often buy one of my custom spell candles or gemstone bracelets. When you order a custom spiritual item from me, I ask you to briefly tell me what it is that you want to attract or change. I thought that was an easy question. It is not for many people. I may get a 3 page email that is very scattered. There is no focus. I have to sift through the email to find out what it is that this person needs. When I make anything custom, I ask my guides to help me create what serves this customer’s needs best. Almost every time I get one of those scattered emails asking for my help, one word sums up that scattered energy. CLARITY!

In spirituality, clarity refers to “knowing or understanding”. When I want to help someone find clarity. I want them to move past all the drama and chaos to SEE and UNDERSTAND what they really want.

I learned many valuable lessons in the martial arts. You will move where your focus lies. You have to understand what it is that needs to be done and focus beyond all the chaos to what your goal really is. If you focus on the drama and chaos, you can’t move past it. In the martial arts, the secret to breaking a board with your hand isn’t focusing on the surface of the board. To break the board, you focus PAST the board. When you focus on the board, your strike stops at the surface because your mind sees that as the goal and takes you there. When you focus beyond the board, your mind moves through the board and to the place where you told it you wanted to go. When you do not break the board, it is very painful and you step back and wonder what you did wrong. When you break the board correctly, there is no pain. It is effortless. So if a flesh and bone arm or leg can break boards or cement EFFORTLESSLY…. Then why is life so difficult? I don’t think it has to be. Some people sail through life because they are focused BEYOND what looks like the goal. The rest of us keep hitting the surface, wondering what we are doing wrong and why life is so difficult for us. We focus on the very thing we want to break through.

The trick in this spiritual quest of direction is to learn what it is that you want, where you want your focus to be. The hardest part of spirituality is self-discovery. Who am I? What do I want/ need in my life right now? What is working? What is not working?

I’m going to end this post here. This is enough to get your mind working for now. I am going to do another post to give you ideas and exercises in spiritual self-discovery.